You are not obligated to like everything your partner likes

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15 Things My Wife Does That Make Me Fall In Love With Her Again

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Sometimes the best thing Moncler Outlet for your relationship is what you don’t do. My wife and I each need time to ourselves, both because of the kinds of work we do and because we each need personal down time to unwind. The best way for her to support my work and mental health is sometimes to leave me be, and I try to return moncler sale the favor and not interrupt her when she’s writing, too.

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moncler outlet sale My wife does her research. She’s not prone to casually spouting off about things she knows nothing of. She has opinions, some of them quite strongly held, but they’re informed opinions. Not to get all Machiavellian, but both people in a relationship need their partner to be an asset and not a liability. moncler outlet sale

Of course, we’re all liabilities sometimes, and love means taking care of your partner when they’re sick, hurt, or just a bit too moncler sale outlet tipsy. But you also can’t expect yourself to support a partner who consistently makes harmful decisions. I’m very happy to be with someone who carefully researches her options and brings evidence to our decision making conversations.

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When my wife suggested we travel to a major American city to participate in a mass protest, my initial reaction was roughly, “I don’t see how it helps the cause for us to get abused by police.” It turned out to be an inspiring event that led me to change my behaviors in some important ways, and I’m thankful we went. I’m lucky to have a partner who’s willing to push against my inertia and get me out of the house in spite of my apprehensions.

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Although I usually don’t appreciate it at the time, in the grand view I’m really thankful that my wife lets me know when I’m slipping up. This gives me an opportunity to see my role in our relationship more clearly, and make adjustments where necessary.

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My wife is never going to be into the Grateful Dead, and that’s OK. You are not obligated to like everything your partner likes, but you are somewhat obligated to put up with them liking it, and that might mean listening to a Grateful Dead show now and then, although I try to hold up my end of the moncler outlet online bargain by not exposing her to things she doesn’t care for, especially after she was such a sport at the Phil and Friends show.

We’ve been together cheap moncler coats for years and have seen each other naked thousands of times, but my wife still keeps track of my tastes in shoes, clothes, makeup, and hair, and incorporates my preferences into her personal style.

My wife likes to go around the house naked, and while it’s not for my benefit, I nevertheless enjoy it.

When I see her take time to play with the cats or share kind words with a friend on the street, I’m reminded again of what a compassionate person she is.

Falling in love again is easier over a glass of wine, especially one cheap moncler outlet that’s been put in the fridge earlier that day by a spouse who knows it’s going moncler outlet to be appreciated after a day at work.

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I’m not sure why, but I find this endlessly endearing.

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